My dear friend said this on the matter of "amore"

I was asked to define "love", in the context as it is used between man and woman:

A systematic infatuational idealization of an imperfect human.

My english proffesor said this

"this i wish for you, that you can take delight in the person"

I agree with both, you see the type of "love" and relationships you see in high school and thus among the psychologically immature are about false idolatry and about lies and mostly confusion of lust and love, or the need to be validated with the need to validate.

I also believe though that there is a rare and magic thing where people find other people with whom they are comfortable and happy, people who can tolerate them. Yes, my idea of love is the idea of the ability to tolerate a person despite all the foibles and grand flaws, despite the fact that they are not prince fucking charming. But its more than tolerance, its the ability to surpass tolerance and be able to admire, respect, and feel something more for a person because of who that person is; not what you want them to be or why you want them to be, just, who they are. This is why the majority of us will never find this "true love" because it requires first and foremostly the knowledge of one's self. The ability to understand yourself fully and completely before you can go and accept and be accepted by someone else fully and completely. And this ability is the most difficult and challenging of all, it is in the end the purpose of life, there fore inabling a person to the find the prize of life, love.

Heh but relationships are still crap, I hope I never find out who I really am, heh that's why I'm pink on valentines.

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